BDSM Glossary & Dictionary - Terms used on this site and throughout the BDSM community.
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| Term | Definition |
|---|---|
| 24/7 |
Continuous, lasting 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Many use it when referring to the relationship a couple has when living together. |
| After Care |
After Care is the close "intimate" attention given to the submissive after play. Used to both, reinforce the feelings of trust and bonding between the Dominant and the submissive, and to physically care for bruises, welts, and other play related light injuries. |
| Anaclitism |
Anaclitism is the act of achieving adult sexual arousal by activities or objects one was exposed to as an infant. These may include breast sucking, enemas, toilet training (Europhilia and coprophilia), soiled clothing (mysophilia), bondage (womb confinement), spankings, humiliation, biting, nudity or exhibitionism, circumcision, submission, being bathed, nurtured, throwing temper tantrums, wearing infant apparel, having the penis slapped for masturbation, or playing with dolls. |
| Animal Training |
Fantasy play in which one partner is an animal trainer and the other is the animal. Ponyplay and dogplay are the two most popular. Usually includes obedience training, exercise training, etc. |
| Autoerotic Asphyxiation |
Otherwise known as "Breath Play", Breath Play is used to limit ones breathing to enhance orgasms, or as a form of torture. This is considered as Edge Play and is very dangerous, and not to be tried by those new to the scene. |
| Ball Gag |
Toy used in BDSM play to prevent a sub from speaking. Mouth pieces are usually made from a rubber ball, plastic, or leather that is placed between a submissive teeth with the tongue secured underneath in place by a strap or a little string. |
| BDSM |
An acronym for Bondage, Discipline & Sado Masochism. Different variations of this but with the same general meanings are B&D, D&S, S&M. |
| Beastiality - ILLEGAL IN THE UNITED STAT |
The act of sexual conduct or contact with animals. |
| Blood Play |
A darker type of sex play that involves piercing(s), cutting(s) or the drawing of blood. |
| Body Worship |
Oral service (including licking, sucking and kissing) by a submissive to the dominant such as foot worship. |
| Bondage |
Restriction of a person's bodily movement for erotic reasons using fastenings of various kinds and various binding materials. |
| Bottom |
The person in the receiving end of play. See also Submissive. |
| Botulinonia |
Sex with sausage. |
| Branding |
Act of scarring the skin with an extremely hot or cold instrument. |
| Brat / Bratting |
Term for a sub who tries to get the attention of a Dom/me by stirring up trouble. |
| Breath Play |
Otherwise known as "Autoerotic Asphyxiation", Breath Play is used to limit ones breathing to enhance orgasms, or as a form of torture. This is considered as Edge Play and is very dangerous, and not to be tried by those new to the scene. |
| Bukkake |
Bukkake [bu-kak-ee] in Japanese is base form of a verb, as it stands alone it is a noun. Bukkake means soak, splash or heavy squirt. In sexual context it is a noun variety of a fetish that involves repeated ejaculation on a female by many men. Between the late 80's to the early 90's a couple of Japanese video companies were trying to make videos that catered to facial and sperm lovers in Japan that consisted of a girl (s) receiving facial after facial. |
| Bull Whip |
A long, heavy leather whip, which produces a loud cracking noise. |
| Caging |
The act of keeping ones submissive or slave in a cage. |
| Canning |
Usually a 15-45 inch long stick used for spanking techniques. |
| Cattle Prod |
A usually electrified prod designed for driving cattle that emits an electrically charged shock. |
| CBT |
Cock and Ball Torture - Intense stimulation of the male sex by bondage, needles, clamps, etc. |
| Chastity Belt |
Broadly defined, it is any locking appliance that prevents the wearer engaging in sexual intercourse. |
| Cock Ring |
A cock ring is one of the oldest mechanical sex aids used for sustaining an erection for a longer than ordinary period. One of the oldest cock rings was called a hairy ring (also happy ring or goat's eyelid). This dates back to the Orient in the 13th century and was made from the eyelashes of slain goats. These were chemically treated and inlaid in rings that fit over the mans penis. Today's version has soft bristles or blunt points -- all designed to provide extra stimulation of the vagina during coitus. Powders and rings can have bad effects for some and most people use them with caution until they are certain the item is safe. |
| Consensual |
Any act agreed upon by all parties involved. |
| Contract |
A written agreement about the rights and duties of the D/s partners. Those contracts do not have any meaning in terms of law, but they are often used to define the relationship. |
| Coprophilia |
Play involving feces. See also Scat. |
| Corprorral Punishment |
Punishment by beating. The term CP sometimes implies a more vigorous beating than "spanking", but the two are often used interchangeably. |
| Crop |
Instrument used for spanking techniques. See also Riding Crop. |
| Cupping / Suction Play |
Suction of the skin produced by the use of small glass cups (medical toy) on the body. Types of cups: vacuum cups, fire cups. Be careful as with too much suction you can create visible "hickeys". Use them on breasts, buttocks or wherever you'd like to feel these unique sensations. Do not use these on any one area for more than 5 minutes each time to avoid possible skin irritation or damage such as bruising. The Chinese used suction devices for therapeutic use like acupuncture and acupressure. |
